What are some passages that prove courage is not a "man with a gun in his hands" and examples of Scout seeing real courage in other people in...

In Chapter 24 of Harper Lee's To Kill a Mockingbird, Scout begins to understand what it means to be a true lady by being able to associate being a lady with courage. Scout makes this connection based on her observances of Aunt Alexandra's and Miss Maudie's reactions to the news of Tom Robinson's death.

In Chapter 24, Scout is invited to join the ladies of her aunt's missionary circle for refreshments. Atticus interrupts refreshments to tell Calpurnia the news of Robinson's death and to solicit her help in informing Helen Robinson, Tom's wife. Scout, Aunt Alexandra, and Miss Maudie also follow Atticus into the kitchen to hear the news. Scout is so distressed by the news that she begins visibly shaking; Aunt Alexandra is so upset by how Robinson's death affects Atticus that she looks ready to cry. Miss Maudie demonstrates courage by taking command of the situation and telling everyone to calm down. More specifically, she reminds Alexandra and Scout they have company and that it is time to rejoin them.

What Scout observes in watching Miss Maudie and Aunt Alexandra return to entertaining their company with fresh smiles on their faces is that it takes a great deal of bravery to continue to act like a lady in the face of one's own adversities. This is because behaving like a lady requires treating others with the utmost respect; to be able to do so, one must put others' needs above one's own. Hence, to be able to act like a lady in the face of adversity, one must set aside one's own troubles for the sake of only paying attention to other people. It takes a great deal of bravery to be able to set aside one's own cares for the sake of caring only for others. The moment Scout observes her aunt and Miss Maudie acting bravely in this way is the moment she learns to accept her role as a lady. We see Scout acknowledge both Miss Maudie's and her Aunt's bravery, plus submit to the idea of being a lady, in the following passage found at the very end of Chapter 24:

Aunt Alexandra looked across the room at me and smiled. She looked at a tray of cookies on the table and nodded at them. I carefully picked up the tray and watched myself walk to Mrs. Merriweather. With my best company manners, I asked her if she would have some. After all, if Aunty could be a lady at a time like this, so could I. (Ch. 24)

Since we know it takes a great deal of courage to be ladylike in times of tragedy, we know this is an excellent example of Scout observing that bravery is more than just a "man with a gun in his hands," of observing what true bravery is.